With these mind-blowing, orgasm-inducing techniques, she’ll never need to fake it again.
Listen
up, gentlemen. We know you want to please your lady (or, if you're
single, the ladies) in the bedroom and they sure as hell want you to do
it, too.
But here's the truth: While most guys think they're blowing her mind, more often than not, they're missing the mark.
"Women
know that most guys want them to reach O-land, and they don't want to
disappoint," says Dorian Solot, a sex educator and co-author of I Love
Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. "So all too often, women
fake orgasms, or just let their partner assume they had one."
But don't settle for disappointing. Stick to these positions. Believe us: Both you and she will know that they work.
- Spooning
If
your lady doesn't prefer deep penetration, Andelloux suggests spooning.
It’s also good "if you're into lazy morning Sunday sex playtime. It
concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or
rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals."
Andelloux explains that spooning is pleasurable because it creates a
tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more
stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis... spoon away.
- Crisscross
According
to Marshall Miller, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female
Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, this is another great position
for clitoral stimulation. "Both partners are lying down. The woman is on
her back and the guy is on his side.
She has her
legs draped over his middle like a giant X," he says. "Since your bodies
aren't squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to
rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O."
- The Pillow Technique
Many
sex experts agree that positions often become more pleasurable for a
woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry.
In missionary, Levine says to "put a pillow under her tush to give a
pelvic lift.
That can also help the man rub her
g-spot with his penis." Brame says it's a tip that is often
underutilized, and that you can even use furniture or yoga props.
"Certain angles for some women won't be comfortable," he says. "Ask her
what is working for her."
- Coital Alignment Technique
This
position, created by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, is considered by
many to be the "greatest sex position in the world." Start in a normal
missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not
resting on your elbows.
Move forward so that the
base of your penis (your pubic bone) is making direct contact with her
clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving
together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. "Some swear that this position
allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral
stimulation based on his positioning," says Levine.
- Ankles Up
"When
you're on top of somebody or flat, you can't always achieve full
penetration," says Brame which is why adjusting her leg positioning
allows for deeper contact.
"You have to put her
ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her
as possible and hit her G-spot." The same deepness can also be achieved
by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your
chest.
- Kneeling
This
is a simple woman-on-top position where she's (duh) kneeling on an arm
chair or bed, straddling you. "It's the best way for her to have control
over penetration and when you both climax since she can slow down or
speed up, grind and thrust at her own pace," Brame says.
"Even
women who don't necessarily want to be in control in bed might enjoy if
their partner grips her arms or hips and helps steer their movements."
- Edge of the Bed
Like
the Ankles Up position, this encourages deep penetration since she's
lying on her back with her hips at the edge of the bed, and you're
entering from under her legs (which can rest on your torso or fall over
the edge of the bed).
However, it can be difficult
to get comfortable if the bed is too low and your groin isn't in line
with hers. "More likely, you'll need to lower yourself or bend over her
to penetrate fully, but it's sexy on the edge of the bed because it
feels like you couldn't actually wait to get to the pillow," Brame says.
Plus, she gets a direct view of the action.
- Cowgirl with a Twist
This
takes Cowgirl up a notch. She kneels and straddles you, while you're
flat on your back. The twist is you bend your knees, supporting her
butt. From here, she can push off your chest to help control as she
slides up and down against your thighs.
Because
there's less stress on her legs and she's in control, she can delay your
climax and get the right rhythm. Plus, you can grab onto her hips or
thighs and meet each thrust.
- Missionary
According
to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary
sex. "Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned
missionary position was the overall favorite.
There's
nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the
intimacy of having their partner's weight on them," says Solot.
But
in order for missionary position to be most effective, make sure you're
entering her at the correct angle, says Los Angeles-based sex expert
and radio host Lora Somoza. "By going in diagonally rather than straight
in and out there's more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is
best, since that's how most women achieve orgasm."
- Reverse Cowgirl
In
this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position,
and the female straddles him backwards facing his feet instead of his
face. It's a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris,
says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux.
"Because
of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most
likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is
easy to engage in."
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